Why I decided to hire a doula

Welp, I hired a doula. And i’m really excited about it! But I did want to document and share why I decided to hire a doula. First, I guess I should explain what exactly a doula is for those who don’t know. By definition, a doula is a woman who is trained to assist another woman during childbirth and who may provide support to the family after the baby is born. Doula’s are a support person for mom (and dad!) during labor and delivery. A doula is different than a midwife or OB. They are there to support you and keep you comfortable during labor – not to delivery the baby or make medical evaluations. Different doula’s offer different services but most will help you draft a thorough birth plan, are trained in massages/relaxation/pain mangement techniques, and ensure your birth team (midwife or OB) follow your birth plan and any deviations are explained to you.

So, with all that said – here is why I chose to hire a doula this time.

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Why workout while pregnant?

I get a lot of questions/comments about my fitness journey now that I’m pregnant. Most of them go in 1 of 3 directions:

“Wow omg is that safe?”

“Oh you look great I wish I could have done all of that, I’m too tired”

“You’re gonna have a great snapback!”

So I thought I should address them.

My pregnancy is not high risk (though my delivery, being a VBAC, is slightly more risky than the norm – my pregnancy is not). I am within a healthy weight gain range, my blood pressure/sugar/blood work is all good, my baby’s anatomy scan was good, and we are healthy. With that in mind, most doctors suggest that a woman can continue workouts of the same intensity as they were doing prepregnancy and follow her bodies cues for when to slow down. There are some things I can’t do (ab work, and I try not to do anything that leaves me breathless) but other than that I’m good. I mean, I ran a half marathon a few weeks ago. I’m good.

Not only is it safe, it’s IMPORTANT. Babies born to momma’s who are active and healthy have a lower chance of having birth weight issues, issues latching/breastfeeding, and are more likely to have an easier delivery. Postpartum recovery time is statistically easier too and the chance of csection is much lower. Honestly, in the US the norm is for mom’s to sit around and be kinda uncomfortable during pregnancy and it shows in our high rate for csection/complications/assisted delivery.

With all that blabbing said – I do EVERY workout with the health of me and my baby in mind. I’m TIRED. I want to just lay around a lot of days. I don’t because I want to have a healthy pregnancy and an easy delivery.

The comments about being too tired… I am too. But you know what I learned during labor with LB? Labor is HARD. Pushing is HARD. It is an endurance sport. I’d be silly not to train for it.

Oh, and I don’t do a single workout with my “snapback” in mind. I won’t be restricting calories after I give birth. I’ll be active (once I’m cleared to workout and feel up to it) and I’ll eat healthy foods because those things make me feel good physically and emotionally. But with breastfeeding – I won’t be actively trying to lose weight. My body will do what it wants to do in it’s own time. I’m fine with that.

Oh and for labor – there are some things I concentrate to make that easier (hopefully!). I plan to delivery squatting or on all 4’s, so I have been doing a lot of leg work. I squat often – I try to squat down anytime I need to pick up something or help LB with something (instead of just bending from the waist). I do this to help with my pelvis flexibility and leg strength. I also do workouts that have planking for core strength. And with everything – I practice good posture because that helps the baby get into the best position. And I spend a lot of time on my birthing ball (I’m sitting on it now). Most of yal know I’m studying hypnobirthing so I follow their suggestions.

 

What is a Mumbelli and why did I choose it?

As yal know i’ve been collecting baby items like I’m due tomorrow. I had been researching sleeping options since I was about 12 weeks.

With LB, we made mistakes. We had his crib of course and other than that just a pack n’ play with a built in bassinet. LB hated it. We ended up cosleeping (safely) and I was ok with that – but I want to be better prepared this time.

In my research, I came across the mumbelli. I couldn’t wait to get my hands on one of these!

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Charlie banana one size diaper review

I didn’t cloth diaper with LB, so this will be my first time. I really wanted to with LB but I had trouble finding a daycare center familiar with them, and also just thought it would be too much work at an already tough time (transitioning back to work). Anywho, this time things are much different since with coaching I can work from home and be with my kiddos all day.

I’ve heard a lot about the popular brands and even got my hands on some other brands. Charlie Banana is one of the most frequently talked about brands I know of, and they were kind enough to send me a couple diapers for our baby girl.

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Why I changed from my OB to a midwife practice

Last week I did something I’ve been needing to do for months –

I broke up with my OB.

I’m sad about it for a few reasons. One – I love love love my OB. I came across him by chance (I was going to another gynecologist, she retired, and I was transferred to him). From my first check up I liked him. He’s easy to talk to, listens to my concerns, never cuts my appointments short AND somehow is still always on time. And… let me be honest – he’s a fellow African America. Basically we feel like family. He was excited for us when we had the second ultrasound to confirm we were expecting (the first there was just a sack – we weren’t sure if this one was gonna make it). And I look forward to updating him on every appointment about my workouts/runs/baby movement/etc. His staff is also excellent.

The problem? Something I’ve known from that first appointment I had with him – a year before I got pregnant with this blessing.

His VBAC policy.

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Weekly update – week 18

I’m 18 weeks pregnant and everyone has been fussing at me to get more than 5 hours of sleep 😂😂. So I have but it’s cut into my blog time.

As a quick update – I feel awesome and cute. I only got dressed 2x this week but that’s ok 😂. I also organized under the sink in the bathroom in my nesting escapades.

Started my next fitness program and I’m feeling great. This week was only 15 minutes – next week goes to 25.

Anywho, a real post will come soon but for now – Here’s some pics of my pregnancy flyness over the past couple weeks.

16 weeks in “Nesting with Tarra”

My plans for laundry beautification were interrupted last week because it was fall break. No preschool so no alone time.

To watch this story instead of read – watch these snippets from my Instagram story (follow me @Tarra.Yvette)

Anywho – I decided to work on it over the weekend when Brian could entertain LB and I could have my sister help with paint.

First things first, I had to pick a paint color. Which was HARD. I wanted to go with a blue color but honestly we have so much blue in our house. And it’s a small space so I thought I could get a little wild and go with a purple tint.

I planned on painting a billion swatches before picking but I walked Into Lowe’s and this color called my name

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