Lazy wash n go

I wanted to give you guys info on my lazy wash n go method!

This is the method I used 24/7 before I had a devacurl stylist show me how bomb my hair could be with full shingling (Click here for shingling routine). The only issue with that? It takes a long time – about an hour. It doesn’t last long (3 day hair looks crazy) and my results are inconsistent. I’m just not good at it and honestly the more i separate curls and smooth them, the more frizz i get! Especially at the front of my hair.

For example here are my results last week shingling with kinky curly (defining every curl) vs my lazy method with the same products (prayer hand method) both on day 2.

Left – shingling. Right – prayer hands.

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Protective styling!

I’ve been neglecting not just this blog but also my hair so I decided to get it braided up! My homegirl Abirah (@godsgifttoyou) was coming to WV to do hair so I made an appointment and a trip. Can’t wait to see what i can do with these once my scalp isn’t too tight lol

For those who don’t follow me on ig or fb:

“Honestly guys I’ve been feeling off for the past month or so. It’s shown in every aspect of my life. Sometimes I think doing this dance between being a full time at home mommy and a wife and a business owner and a sister and a daughter and every other role I assume that sometimes I forget to just be me.

I hide parts of myself that don’t fit in with the people I’m around. I mute myself. I tone myself down. Because honestly I’m too much for some and three much for most.

But I really need to stop that shit so I can enjoy life. So I decided getting my hair done was a good first step. The tension on my scalp right now is a constant reminder that I need to remember who the f I am.

And the truth is, yeah I’m all them other titles. But I’m still a bad ass bish 👌🏾. I really needed to adjust my crown.”

I’ll be back in a few days with more updates 👌🏾

Hair color

Alright finallyyyy have my hair to the color I wanted. Before (first pic) was just the first step.

I was in Charleston and needed to have the color finished up (for my own sanity) so of course i went to Kara Fuller (Charleston WV) and told her “idk what I want. Here’s some pics of what I like. Here’s what I don’t like”. And she went in.

I’m no professional so take this with a grain of salt but it looked to me like she did heavy foil highlights in the front, less in the back and then some random highlights throughout without foils. She feathered in the color to make the transition look more natural. Then I sat under the IR light for 15 mins and she rinsed and toned. That’s it.

Whole process from start to finish took like 1.5 hours. To do ANYTHING to my hair in that little time is a miracle. I set it in twists after the color and unleashed last night because I couldn’t wait.

Color is exactly what I wanted with so much depth and dimension and not orange anymore lol. And my curls don’t seem damaged from either process – though it always seems a little drier the next day so I will do a deep conditioning mask tonight before I set it again (because I took down damp twists last night so this set won’t last long)

Alright, I should be done stressing yal out for a bit. Maybe. I mean I still use sulfate shampoos and ecostyler gel so you never know what ima do. Clearly I’m a rebel.

Riviera Maya!

I’m behind as heck on posting blog content so I’m going to be pumping it out at lightening speed. First and foremost, a recap of my trip to Riviera Maya with hubby free of charge with my business 💃🏾

Guys, it was a trip of firsts. I’d never had a stamp on my passport (only left the country for cruises in the past). I’d never left my son overnight with anyone other than Brian (he stayed with my parents). I’d never had a professional massage at a spa! Never met Autumn Calabrese! And of course never worked for a company that offered me and my family all expense paid trips once a year ❤️

When I was first offered this trip I planned on taking Beezy. I was still working full time and honestly didn’t think I’d really be quitting my job at the end of the year. But hell now here I am! 😂😂😂. It was 3 weeks before the trip when I looked at Brian and said “… should we go alone?”

It took a lot of soul searching but I knew I needed to do this for our marriage. At first my in-laws planned to come up from MS and stay with LB. but they were hit by a surprise TORNADO 4 days before we flew out. luckily my parents stepped in so we didn’t have to cancel the trip.

I worried a lot on the way there, but once we were at the resort and I face timed him I knew he was having a good time and being spoiled. I only cried once – Saturday when Brian was out golfing and I had a minute alone to think and really miss beezy. I love that boy.

A typical day at the rest consisted of sleeping in as late as we want (aka 7:30 AM 😂😂😂) and waking up to order room service which was AWESOME and even better when it’s free. Some days we went for a run or to the live workouts hosted by either Autumn, Chris Downing or Joel Freeman. After that we could grab free, already blended shakeology for a post workout.

Then heading out to the pool to meet up with my team and their spouses. Sitting out there soaking up sun and having drinks until hunger struck. Then heading to one of the awesome restaurants to eat or eating at the grill at the pool.

Next would be a shower then getting dressed up for a nice dinner and then night life.

This was NOT a training event like some of the other trips I’ve been on so there weren’t any classes or required work to do. We literally just chilled. We did have a scheduled massage one day and I had earned a photo opp another day, and there were some celebration ceremonies but other than that everything was unplanned and relaxing. And did I mention free?

Anywho! Nobody cares yal just want pics so here you go! 😂😂😂

If you want to learn more about earning FREE trips, AND a full time income from home – fill this form! I’d love to talk to you about what I do as a coach and how I’ve grown this business to support my family and give me freedom and time with them.

PS – body by 80 day obsession. I’ll be posting full results (2 months late😩) soon!

Hair update – straight to curly :) and back to my fave product

So a lot of people have asked about my hair pressing routine. There are so many things I do to make sure that I don’t end up with damaged hair – mainly only doing 1-2 passes for each section of hair and not touching up with heat.

But I still hold my breath on wash day! Here’s how I do it 🙂

This was the last day of my press. It lasted about 3 weeks. I was over it. Idk how people with straight hair deal. Hair just shedding. Combing every day. Styling daily. Just not cool.

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Here it is with the braid taken out (ignore my sticker, I had taken Beezy to the childrens expolorium earlier haha)img_9757

Bad pic but I section my hair in four sections like I do in my normal washday routine.img_9758

I take one section and totally saturate with water. First it gets smaller and straighter than it starts curling up within like 20 seconds. Then I add my fave deep conditioner and put in a bun.img_9760

I put the 4 buns in a shower cap (flipped inside out so I always have 1 clean side to protect my hair if needed haha) and wait about 5-10 mins.img_9761img_9762

Then I detangle and rinse and add my styling product. I reached for Deva Curl decadence line because honestly, I had my hair styled by devacurl stylists over a year ago and they SLAYED. So I went with it. But it’s never worked as well for me. I have to use SOOO MUCH. And it never lasts as long.img_9763

Anywho finished product the next day. I was hype to have my curls back but not hype with the results.. I NEVER AM with that product. Yet I keep stupidly using it.img_9788

I tried spraying and redefining a few times the next couple of days and it just wasn’t working right.img_9806

So here’s my story – and I’m not AT ALL knocking deva curl. But basically, I don’t know why I kept fighting with those products when I already knew what worked for me. More details on that here.

So basically, I got tired of fighting with products that didn’t work and I reached for Kinky CUrly. It was my staple for YEARS (2009 – 2015 – from growing out to taper to growing out again). I still had some left. Yal, look at the difference in how my hair looked!

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I knew from how it looked wet – it was gonna be lit. AND it took me half the time that it takes when I use deva curl. Literally took me 20-30 mins.

But dry – girl….. POPPIN.img_0017img_0002

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it’s almost time to do another wash – but I’m happy with how this one lasted. I’ll be back to kinky curly for wash and goes for the unforseeable future haha. Moral of the story? It’s ok to try what works for everyone else. But don’t stick with it if it doesn’t work for you! Do you, boo!

And for the record – no heat damage in sight 🙂img_0243img_0278

Annual hair press AKA – Get you a girl that can do both 😂

Alright guys – it’s that time of year again where I straighten my hair. My timehop app always reminds me. I actually like straightneing my hair once a year – it gives me a chance to examine my ends and lets me switch it up. I also like seeing how much growth I’ve had.

So here is where I started at. Week old braidout.

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Here’s my toolbox:

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Natural Hair Growth

I hear it all the time. “My hair isn’t growing!” “How do you get your hair to grow so fast?” “I hope I can get my hair that long one day”

Listen, in my opinion, there’s a huge problem in the natural hair community. And that issue is that we spend however much money being a product junkie buying the finest, most organic, natural ingredients. I mean standing in the product aisle READING THE BACK OF ISH (this is me too so i ain’t mad at ya).

And then we pull up at McDonalds for a McDouble and fries.

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New Year – New You ?

Listen, I hate that phrase. It’s the SAME OL YOU. But if 1/1/2018 is what it takes to get you to care about your health and wellness, I’m all for it.

So yal know I got a group going… just like every other month. But this one is a lil something special for the new year.

  1. It’s a fitness bet. We call it “FitBet” – no you do NOT need a fitBIT to participate.
  2. That means whoever loses the highest % of their body weight wins a pot of cash
  3. Last bet was Oct/Nov and the winner lots THIRTY pounds and took home $350!
  4. You get a workout plan, meal plan, 1 meal a day already perfect and ready to go, support and accountability and coaching from ME. And I want one of my clients to be the winner (AGAIN. Yes I coached the last winner).
  5. So basically… YOU WANT in on this. But there’s limited spots.

Reserve your spot now by filling out this form.

I understand the fear of committing to and starting something new. You are afraid that it wont work. You are afraid that you will quit. Again. You are afraid that this will be just like every other time. That’s cool, it’s fine to be afraid. Do it scared, because this is gonan work. It is good nutrition and exercise. If you put in the effort, you cannot fail.

Also, there’s a new program coming out that I’ll be doing for my own fitness called 80 day obsession. THIS AINT for beginners so we will start prepping on 12/20. We go all at it on 1/15. If you want in this, email me at shoot me an email at tarra.yvette@gmail.com.

If you are about to spend like $240+ YET AGAIN for a year of gym membership you ain’t gonna use – come with me instead, sis.

Because I’m gonna annoy tf out of you until you do right.

-Tarra

I Quit my Job to be a WAHM

From the first second I held my son in my arms I knew I’d never love my job again.

I had a “good” situation in America. I took off 12 weeks after my c section. And then I started paying someone (someone amazing) to raise my beautiful son. I have a chemistry degree and I knew it was time to leave the lab (career ceiling without going for a PhD, chemicals all in my aura while pregnant). I loved the lab, and then I loved regulatory.

And then i held my son. I’m dramatic af. And I’m not judging moms who aren’t as crazy or weren’t depressed over going to work. It just wasn’t for me.

But I was the bread winner. I started my career in pharma in 2012 after earning a bachelors in chemistry. I’ve always had a salary and benefits and done well. Our family has benefited for sure. We have had some rough patches but all and all for a family our size at our age we have done well.

I thought I couldn’t quit and be home with LB. So I went back to work. And I cried. And I tried. And I hated everything about it.

When he was about 10 months old I decided my time at my first company was done. We relocated back to my hubbys old town and I found a new job – still in pharma. Yal, I was bomb at this job. Customer facing and I basically managed the quality end of around 14 companies products manufactured at the site. I started to gain some confidence. And I decided to extend that to working on me – so I started Beachbody.

I lost the weight I needed to lose.

I took charge of my health and became a coach. And you know what I discovered?

I’m good at a lot of things other than chemistry and pharma. I’m a good motivator. I’m encouraging. I make a way out of no way.

I’m good.

I started to think “maybe I could make this my full time?” I set a goal for end of 2018. And around August – I got scared.

I got another job offer from a local company. It was more money, more opportunities… I was on the fence for awhile but I took it.

I started right before the leadership retreat in October. And I learned something at that retreat.

Those women there who are now home with their kids while they work – they’re just like me. They’re not cut from a different cloth and they don’t have super powers. They just believed in themselves and put the work in.

So I did the same. I busted my butt. At the same time – bae had just gotten his career back on track (that’s a story for another day but lay down with dogs and get fleas). We ran the budget a zillion times.

And it worked.

So after freaking out for 4 months – i did it. I have prayed, I have cried, i have talked to countless friends about it, I have wondered if I was crazy. But I feel at peace now.

Here we are taught this idea that we should spend 13 straight years in school, then get a 4 year degree, then work for a major corporation until death. And I’ve done it and I was successful financially. But I wasn’t happy. I wanted to be home with my son. I wanted to enjoy my whole life – not just Saturday and Sunday. I am tireddddd of selling hours away from my son for $35 a pop. And i don’t have to.

Here’s a secret – you can really actually do anything you want. Just set your mind to it and GO.

Of course there will be changes. I won’t be making both incomes anymore, just 1. But I am excited to see how my business flourishes with more time to focus on growing into the person and mother I want to be. I feel like always pushing towards my “assigned goals” that society nudged me towards stunted my growth as a woman. I’m excited to explore who I am while living a life by design.

So it’s a risk and it’s new and it’s scary but I’m doing it. I couldn’t do any of this without first of all God (of course). Close second is hubby – who finally recognized how bomb Beachbody has been for me and actually is the one who suggested I finally dive in.

I also have to give a shout out to every single person who supports my dreams (this includes my 3400+ followers – Yal are the BEST and i love yal so much), my extended family (especially my sister) And of course my beautiful supportive sponsor coach Maria (and hers, Misti) and each and every wonderful woman who has given me the chance to help them along their path to a better version of them. Omg I love yal. I can’t hardly believe this.

I lived someone else’s American dream my entire life.

Now I’m going to go live mine ✌🏾

TL:DR – I quit my job to be a Beachbody coach full time.

BTW – I’d love for you to join me.

if you feel anything like I felt, let’s talk about if coaching could be for you. OR something else even. What’s your dream?

Tarra.Yvette@gmail.com 😘