How do you handle stress?

How do you handle stress?

In the past, I had a lot of unhealthy ways of handling stress. Probably because I am just generally an anxious person so I am constantly feeling some level of stress. But I try to focus now on what I’m feeling, why, and how i’m dealing with it. It’s hard – because I want to escape the stress but sometimes it’s necessary in life.

Today I am stressed. There’s no particular reason, I just feel anxious. It’s actually almost a crime to feel so anxious on such a good hair day (day 4 wash and go. Look at this! Like, hello!)

But really, I feel super behind on things for my business, on blog content, on housework… on LIFE.

Honestly, I know in reality I’m no further behind that I always am.. but it doesn’t feel that way. I feel stressed and kind of trapped.

To avoid dropping back into unhealthy habits – for stress relief – I plan. I believe that I have stress because there is an issue I need to solve. Today my issue is I spend a lot of time worrying about what I’m not getting done – instead of getting it done. My time could be better used getting something done. I’ve recently started planning for my business and it has made me feel 1,000x better – but I dont’ do the same for my home/mom life.

In order to maximize my planner I went out (after being encouraged by Shay at http://www.shaybudgets.com) and got some stickers. This should help me get more into each space and also just make things prettier.

I also plan on, instead of leaving the center block of my planner blank, planning activities for LB and I. Along with not just making – but sticking to our weekly meal plan.

Starting out this planning already has me feeling so much less anxious. I know it’s not for everyone, and some of my friends think I’m crazy – but it’s what works for me.

What works for you?

Deva Cut!

Guys. Some days, I’m just a genius. I had one of those days last week. Let me tell you how.

So I was packing up to head to Indianapolis for Coach Summit which is like a big convention for my business. And as I’m packing I also got dressed and unraveled my hair for a braidout. And like I’ve done basically every day for a year – I tried to stretch and shrink and make my hair look like it had some kind of shape. And I thought.. dang – I haven’t had a haircut in 2.5 years. Like a professional one for the shape.

And then on timehop – this pic popped up.

This is the cut I got as a hair model for Deva Curl at a hair show in Nashville.

Made me realize just HOW BAD my hair shape had gotten. I mean – look at it. Just triangular.

Soooooo I got on IG and fb (FOLLOW ME @TARRA.YVETTE) and posted asking for a hair stylist in Indy. And then I got on the devacurl website and checked into devacut stylists. Yal know I had to go view their work because cutting wavy hair isn’t the same as cutting these coils, ya heard? Like, I need to see that you’ve done some hair like mine.

I came accross Brittney at Kurly Koils (check her out, yo) and hit her up on IG and fb lol! Surprisingly – she could fit me in THURSDAY! YAYYYY.

Continue reading “Deva Cut!”

Hair color

Alright finallyyyy have my hair to the color I wanted. Before (first pic) was just the first step.

I was in Charleston and needed to have the color finished up (for my own sanity) so of course i went to Kara Fuller (Charleston WV) and told her “idk what I want. Here’s some pics of what I like. Here’s what I don’t like”. And she went in.

I’m no professional so take this with a grain of salt but it looked to me like she did heavy foil highlights in the front, less in the back and then some random highlights throughout without foils. She feathered in the color to make the transition look more natural. Then I sat under the IR light for 15 mins and she rinsed and toned. That’s it.

Whole process from start to finish took like 1.5 hours. To do ANYTHING to my hair in that little time is a miracle. I set it in twists after the color and unleashed last night because I couldn’t wait.

Color is exactly what I wanted with so much depth and dimension and not orange anymore lol. And my curls don’t seem damaged from either process – though it always seems a little drier the next day so I will do a deep conditioning mask tonight before I set it again (because I took down damp twists last night so this set won’t last long)

Alright, I should be done stressing yal out for a bit. Maybe. I mean I still use sulfate shampoos and ecostyler gel so you never know what ima do. Clearly I’m a rebel.

Flat twist out

In other lost files – here is my flat twist out video. It debuted my new hair color which you may or may not have seen yet if you don’t follow me on ig (@Tarra.Yvette).

Riviera Maya!

I’m behind as heck on posting blog content so I’m going to be pumping it out at lightening speed. First and foremost, a recap of my trip to Riviera Maya with hubby free of charge with my business 💃🏾

Guys, it was a trip of firsts. I’d never had a stamp on my passport (only left the country for cruises in the past). I’d never left my son overnight with anyone other than Brian (he stayed with my parents). I’d never had a professional massage at a spa! Never met Autumn Calabrese! And of course never worked for a company that offered me and my family all expense paid trips once a year ❤️

When I was first offered this trip I planned on taking Beezy. I was still working full time and honestly didn’t think I’d really be quitting my job at the end of the year. But hell now here I am! 😂😂😂. It was 3 weeks before the trip when I looked at Brian and said “… should we go alone?”

It took a lot of soul searching but I knew I needed to do this for our marriage. At first my in-laws planned to come up from MS and stay with LB. but they were hit by a surprise TORNADO 4 days before we flew out. luckily my parents stepped in so we didn’t have to cancel the trip.

I worried a lot on the way there, but once we were at the resort and I face timed him I knew he was having a good time and being spoiled. I only cried once – Saturday when Brian was out golfing and I had a minute alone to think and really miss beezy. I love that boy.

A typical day at the rest consisted of sleeping in as late as we want (aka 7:30 AM 😂😂😂) and waking up to order room service which was AWESOME and even better when it’s free. Some days we went for a run or to the live workouts hosted by either Autumn, Chris Downing or Joel Freeman. After that we could grab free, already blended shakeology for a post workout.

Then heading out to the pool to meet up with my team and their spouses. Sitting out there soaking up sun and having drinks until hunger struck. Then heading to one of the awesome restaurants to eat or eating at the grill at the pool.

Next would be a shower then getting dressed up for a nice dinner and then night life.

This was NOT a training event like some of the other trips I’ve been on so there weren’t any classes or required work to do. We literally just chilled. We did have a scheduled massage one day and I had earned a photo opp another day, and there were some celebration ceremonies but other than that everything was unplanned and relaxing. And did I mention free?

Anywho! Nobody cares yal just want pics so here you go! 😂😂😂

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Hair Update

Hey guys!

I’ve had my hair in a set of minitwists since a few days before I went to Mexico last month (post on that coming SOON)

I’ve been MIA and owe you guys 80 day obesession results AND a recap of Mexico… but first, HAIR.

These twists are on week 3 and still slaying. Theres TONS of updos you can do with them. Heres 3 of my favorites.

Hair update – straight to curly :) and back to my fave product

So a lot of people have asked about my hair pressing routine. There are so many things I do to make sure that I don’t end up with damaged hair – mainly only doing 1-2 passes for each section of hair and not touching up with heat.

But I still hold my breath on wash day! Here’s how I do it 🙂

This was the last day of my press. It lasted about 3 weeks. I was over it. Idk how people with straight hair deal. Hair just shedding. Combing every day. Styling daily. Just not cool.

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Here it is with the braid taken out (ignore my sticker, I had taken Beezy to the childrens expolorium earlier haha)img_9757

Bad pic but I section my hair in four sections like I do in my normal washday routine.img_9758

I take one section and totally saturate with water. First it gets smaller and straighter than it starts curling up within like 20 seconds. Then I add my fave deep conditioner and put in a bun.img_9760

I put the 4 buns in a shower cap (flipped inside out so I always have 1 clean side to protect my hair if needed haha) and wait about 5-10 mins.img_9761img_9762

Then I detangle and rinse and add my styling product. I reached for Deva Curl decadence line because honestly, I had my hair styled by devacurl stylists over a year ago and they SLAYED. So I went with it. But it’s never worked as well for me. I have to use SOOO MUCH. And it never lasts as long.img_9763

Anywho finished product the next day. I was hype to have my curls back but not hype with the results.. I NEVER AM with that product. Yet I keep stupidly using it.img_9788

I tried spraying and redefining a few times the next couple of days and it just wasn’t working right.img_9806

So here’s my story – and I’m not AT ALL knocking deva curl. But basically, I don’t know why I kept fighting with those products when I already knew what worked for me. More details on that here.

So basically, I got tired of fighting with products that didn’t work and I reached for Kinky CUrly. It was my staple for YEARS (2009 – 2015 – from growing out to taper to growing out again). I still had some left. Yal, look at the difference in how my hair looked!

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I knew from how it looked wet – it was gonna be lit. AND it took me half the time that it takes when I use deva curl. Literally took me 20-30 mins.

But dry – girl….. POPPIN.img_0017img_0002

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it’s almost time to do another wash – but I’m happy with how this one lasted. I’ll be back to kinky curly for wash and goes for the unforseeable future haha. Moral of the story? It’s ok to try what works for everyone else. But don’t stick with it if it doesn’t work for you! Do you, boo!

And for the record – no heat damage in sight 🙂img_0243img_0278