How do you handle stress?

How do you handle stress?

In the past, I had a lot of unhealthy ways of handling stress. Probably because I am just generally an anxious person so I am constantly feeling some level of stress. But I try to focus now on what I’m feeling, why, and how i’m dealing with it. It’s hard – because I want to escape the stress but sometimes it’s necessary in life.

Today I am stressed. There’s no particular reason, I just feel anxious. It’s actually almost a crime to feel so anxious on such a good hair day (day 4 wash and go. Look at this! Like, hello!)

But really, I feel super behind on things for my business, on blog content, on housework… on LIFE.

Honestly, I know in reality I’m no further behind that I always am.. but it doesn’t feel that way. I feel stressed and kind of trapped.

To avoid dropping back into unhealthy habits – for stress relief – I plan. I believe that I have stress because there is an issue I need to solve. Today my issue is I spend a lot of time worrying about what I’m not getting done – instead of getting it done. My time could be better used getting something done. I’ve recently started planning for my business and it has made me feel 1,000x better – but I dont’ do the same for my home/mom life.

In order to maximize my planner I went out (after being encouraged by Shay at http://www.shaybudgets.com) and got some stickers. This should help me get more into each space and also just make things prettier.

I also plan on, instead of leaving the center block of my planner blank, planning activities for LB and I. Along with not just making – but sticking to our weekly meal plan.

Starting out this planning already has me feeling so much less anxious. I know it’s not for everyone, and some of my friends think I’m crazy – but it’s what works for me.

What works for you?

It was my genetics?

My parents and grandparents are/were diabetic (type 2) and I was diagnosed as prediabetic at 24 with an A1C of 6.0. And a lot of people I knew and healthcare professionals told me it was because I was genetically predisposed to diabetes.

They didn’t ask about my diet or lack of activity. I sat at a desk all day for work, didn’t work out, and ate fast food at least 3x a week. I love carbs and sweets too. I was depressed. We moved, had 2 mortgages and I was always alone with just LB.

So I ate and layed around.

See here’s the thing about what I was told. It took all of the pressure and responsibility off of me and blamed my genetics. It made me feel like I was just dealt a poor hand. I mean, plenty of people had a worse diet than me and were NOT prediabetic.

It’s really a crazy way that we as a society look at things. Lets say I drove 95 on the interstate every single day (trust me living in Kentucky a lot of people do). And my parents had both lost their legs in car wrecks (God forbid). and then one day I wrecked and broke both legs and may have to amputate. Am I genetically predisposed to losing my legs? To car wrecks?

Why not? It’s the same logic – plenty of people drive 95 and don’t wreck and lose their legs.

See how stupid that sounds? I wasn’t predisposed to diabetes anymore than I’d be predisposed to a car wreck. The people who weren’t affected like I was are like the people who didn’t wreck – THEY’RE LUCKY. Favored. Blessed. Whatever term you want to use. They’re the exception. I’m the rule.

One day I finally got up off my butt and worked out. I changed my diet. And crazy how my A1C went down to 5.5, no longer prediabetic.

I’m no doctor and I can only speak for myself. But the only thing wrong with me was my habits, not my genetics. My genes control a lot of things – my gender, my skin color, my fabulous hair, my body shape, my big teeth.. I could go on and on. But they were not going to make me diabetic. I was going to make me diabetic.

And if you’re like I was, before you check your genetics – check your habits.

Your size doesn’t make you more or less worthy of love – a post Thanksgiving blab

In light of all the post-thanksgiving “omg I look gross I gotta get back on track” posts – I bring you this rant 😂.

First of all – the few pounds of mostly water weight you gained from thanksgiving is not “omg I’m so gross” post worthy. (See above photo – I’m extremely bloated and several inches gained and STILL cute 👌🏾)

Actually, nothing weight related is worthy of an “omg I’m gross” post.

What if I were to tell you that you don’t have to hate yourself for your weight or size?

Like seriously. There are cute (and ugly) people of ALL sizes. You can dress any body size or shape to look amazing. If you see someone who looks a mess – it’s not their weight that has them looking crazy. And even when I was bigger I could still dress up and look nice when I wanted to.

Continue reading “Your size doesn’t make you more or less worthy of love – a post Thanksgiving blab”

Gon n buy you something nice, sis – daylight LED lights

Yal. So I did a thing.

First let me explain. I am sad in the winter. Depressed sometimes. I feel like a cloud of dreariness follows me around until the days get longer and it warms up.

I️ used to work in a lab in a basement and a few offices with no windows – so some days I wouldn’t see the light of day all day long.

That’s affects my mood. I️ mean physically without daylight we can’t process vitamin D. And a symptom of low vitamin D can be depression. But my vitamin D isn’t the issue – just the lack of daylight bothers me. Continue reading “Gon n buy you something nice, sis – daylight LED lights”