So as I said in the last post, we are homeschooling. And with that came a lot of pressure – like omg I don’t want to mess this up! But honestly, being home for COVID really helped. LB was in a private 3 hour a day preschool that taught him SO much. And when schools closed here, his teachers would send us a weekly letter with what topics they would have covered that week. I would go online and find free worksheets and activities and crafts and just do it here.
And watching him learn and grow was AMAZING. Also noticing how little time it took showed me a lot.
We think of school as a 7-8 hour day -but homeschooling a kindergartener takes like 30 minutes a day. Without all the distractions and herding of a classroom, kids learn pretty quickly.
Why? Well, I had put A LOT of time and thought into it. What sparked it was because when it comes right down to it – statistically black children aren’t treated fairly in public schools. There are tons of articles on it – but here’s one if you don’t feel like googling. Also please look up the school to prison pipeline.
Basically, black children are more likely to be perceived as dangerous/violent, more likely to be punished for the same behaviors as their white counterparts, and their punishments are more harsh. Black children are also less likely to be identified as gifted.
LB is a very sweet gentle child. He is hardly ever rowdy, and most of our discipline at home is me letting him know that he shouldn’t be in other peoples personal space. He’s never been the one bouncing off the walls. And we are in district for a really good school, so I had put my fears aside and decided to send him before covid. He was enrolled and all set to go! I was just praying he wouldn’t be the only minority in his class, because our city is only 14% black and our school district is even less so.
I also think it is a distraction and a disadvantage to be the only child of your race in a class. No, the white students may not notice but my black child already has in situations and it causes him to try to be “quiet so nobody notices he’s different” (his words) so yeah.
8 years ago today I married the love of my life. I was 22, young and silly and I had no idea how much work a marriage was. We both admitted that we thought about running away that morning. I could hardly plan out the next week of life let alone forever. And with divorce rates so high I’m sure a lot of people who knew us expected that.
I’m not sure how we made it, and I’m not sure what advice to give couples that ask us “how!” All i know is in a marriage there are really amazing times and really hard times – and sometimes it feels like the hard times are forever and will never end. But they always do. When i look at a mental timeline of our life; Continue reading “Happy anniversary to us!”→
One thing i started noticing as soon as the stay at home orders started was that we go through a TON of trash. I try to consider myself pretty conscious of waste and we do cloth diaper, but we were still getting like a bag of trash A DAY!
So I was so happy when Aunt K reached out to share some of her reusable items with me! Here’s what I got in my care package:
When we moved in this house it was really beige. I always knew we would paint, but I was working full time and LB was a baby and I was adjusting to a whole new state. Life was hectic. And we never got around to painting.
So right before covid-19 close the gym we had someone give us an estimate to paint. But then we were suddenly unemployed and unsure so we decided to wait. But anxiety and boredum don’t go well, so we bought the paint and did it ourselves!
Well, I have a lot of thoughts about the state of the world but some of them are heavy. I don’t want to be heavy now, I want to be lighthearted. So if you’re home with bored young kids, here’s some fun educational activities you can do!
I didn’t write a MLK day post yesterday. It’s a hard day for me – because it’s one of those days when it is SO in your face that black men are very seldom heroes to anyone but us until they’re murdered.