8 years ago today I married the love of my life. I was 22, young and silly and I had no idea how much work a marriage was. We both admitted that we thought about running away that morning. I could hardly plan out the next week of life let alone forever. And with divorce rates so high I’m sure a lot of people who knew us expected that.
I’m not sure how we made it, and I’m not sure what advice to give couples that ask us “how!” All i know is in a marriage there are really amazing times and really hard times – and sometimes it feels like the hard times are forever and will never end. But they always do. When i look at a mental timeline of our life; those hard times that felt so permanent are such small points in time. Things always get back to normal, and our normal is loving each other to the very core of who we are. Honestly, loving each other through those tough times made this love that much sweeter.
I knew nothing about marriage or love when I got married. But I knew that my soul didn’t want to be away from Brian, and I hoped that would be enough. Gosh, when I look at him, it’s past admiring him for his accomplishments (which are amazing). I don’t love him for how great of a business owner or father he is. For his work ethic or this life he has built us. I just. love. him. That’s it. Just him. I can’t stop (because I tried 😂) and I can’t explain it. He is mine and I am his. Dassit.
Everything else is a bonus.
So many blessings have come my way since I let him sneak out the friend zone 11 years ago 😂. Loving and marrying Brian is one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. I’ve accomplished many things in life – my degree in chemistry, my past career accomplishments, home purchases, birthed 2 children (1 without pain medication), I have built things and grown things and bought things and earned things… but my biggest accomplishment is this marriage.
It is everything. He is everything. We are everything.
Anywho, let me stop. Idk why i do this. “Words of affirmation” is MY love language, not his 🙄. My wordsmithing is wasted on an “acts of service” man. So unfair. 😂. He would have been happy with just this:
Happy anniversary, bae ❤️